7 Signs You Have a “Spirited Child” and Why That’s a Good Thing – Life Hacks Tips

7 Signs You Have a “Spirited Child” and Why That’s a Good Thing

veryone knows that raising kids isn’t easy. That’s true whether you have one who’s mild-mannered and mellow or another who is everything but. Each one is different in his or her own way.

Maybe your child’s not a toddler anymore, but still wants to bargain or have fierce fights with you about bedtime. Perhaps you’re a teacher and struggle to understand why two of your kids never follow the rules— it’s not always ADD or badness. Or your mini-me needs much, much, much more than a gentle reminder to behave in public because he feels he should be in charge at all times.

According to author Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, you could have a “spirited child” on your hands. Very loveable but also a living, breathing test of your patience, your spirited child is almost an enigma. Almost.

There are other kids just like them and other parents experiencing the same things that you are. You are not crazy, and you are definitely not alone.

The traits outlined in Kurcinka’s book, Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide For Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic, can help you pinpoint whether you have spirited children and some practical ways to deal with them.

Supporters of the book have said not only has it changed the way they interact with their child, but it’s changed the parent-child relationship permanently – for the better! Let’s look at some of the characteristics of a spirited child.


A child may express this intensity outwardly or inwardly. With certain kids, being loud and boisterous in everything they do is the norm. But on the other side are the extremely focused, thoughtful, analytical, or seemingly calculating children who tend to be quieter. Which type of intensity does your child manifest?


Often characterized as being “stubborn” or “bull-headed”, spirited kids who display persistence hone in on what they want and aren’t willing to bend. They will argue, bargain, and refuse to change their minds over the matter. The bright side? They tend to be ambitious and goal-oriented.


What seems to be a minute detail to you is a big deal to them. Kids are sensitive to smells, textures, noises and other elements in the environment that can send them into a tizzy. Large crowds and gatherings are too much, and your kid may wind up in tears.

Certain clothes textures can be off-putting and one thread out of place will cause a major reaction. What else? They can sense changes in your mood and are not shy about telling you about it.

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