As much fun as it is to be a parent, we all know it’s not always easy. Raising kids to be well-adjusted, respectful adults means teaching them early. They learn but you learn too.
You learn what works, what to let go, and what you can’t allow to fly at all. Building in basic morals along with social skills and academics takes work! Challenges are inevitable, but so are the rewards. We’ve stacked a small of list of common kid issues that you may want to put in check, along with some strategies to help.
When my daughter was in first grade, the school sent home a “Tattletale Contract”, wanting the kids to avoid informing on one another. I laughed it off, thinking this won’t stop a bunch of 6-and-7-year-olds. But it turned out to be way too confusing for the kids. When someone did something bad like hitting another child, no one told because they thought they’d get in trouble for doing so.
Your child might tattle at home and at school for many reasons. Some kids do it to purposely get someone in trouble, for positive attention, or over hurt feelings. Others truly think they’re helping out by policing others. They need help sorting out problem solving, crises, and not being THE judge. Hear them out but guide your child on the difference between being a tattler and being vigilant.
2- Sibling Fights
Anyone having flashbacks? Rivalry between siblings can get really nasty. There is no age limit on these either, as is evidenced by family gatherings where the tension’s worse than a Lannister family dinner.
Find out the root of the problem and put a ban on physical fights. Sometimes parents are the cause of conflict by placing labels on kids (e.g. smart one, nice one, athletic one), or by showing favoritism and taking sides. Watch out— these issues can be carried well into adulthood. Small rifts over territory, parental attention, or teasing can balloon into stressful situations.
Remind kids what it is to be a loving team, and teach them to resolve conflict fairly (with or without your help), which includes respecting feelings and boundaries. It’s also a good idea to set aside one-on-one time with each child so they can keep strong connections with each parent.
3- Sticky Fingers
It can start with something as simple as a box of crayons from a playdate, or a pack of gum at the grocery store when you’re not paying attention. Tiny tots don’t really know what ownership means, but older kids do. How you address an incident is what counts. If it’s the first time your child steals, find out why they did it, explain how it’s wrong and have them return (or pay for) the item with an apology.
The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry states there are many reasons a child gets sticky fingers. She may want attention from friends and family, is jealous over siblings receiving “things”, or thinks she has a need for the item. Many times they’ll outgrow the behavior. Try balancing your attention in a positive way but remind them that it’s a crime. If your child or teen displays a pattern of repeated offenses, it may be time for professional intervention.
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