Always a topic of discussion in adult circles is whether or not someone has been “raised right”. We’re not talking about little kids here, but adolescents and adults who have gotten most of those lessons.
While kindness can either be inherent or taught, social graces are another animal. Children are shown manners, how to treat others, and learn to manage situations that require them to not always put themselves first – unless it’s an issue of safety. And then they grow up, leaving us to wonder how some were raised.
You’ve encountered all types of people with varying degrees of manners or meanness, and you know it’s got a lot to do with upbringing. Here’s a list of signs that tell you if you or someone around you was brought up well.
1.Has Basic Manners
Some basics: speaking when entering a room, allowing people to exit the elevator before walking in, and chewing with your mouth closed. Please, thank you, hello, good morning, and excuse me come as second nature no matter the setting.
2.Honors Their Word
Reliable to a fault, you keep your word and do what you say you are going to do. If for some unexpected reason you can’t, your politeness and integrity will make things right.
3.Pitches in Without Being Asked
Why wait for a prompt when the table needs to be cleared and dishes done? When there’s a project at work that needs to be tackled, you’re on it, even if it’s not “your job”. These people always unselfishly offer to help, even when it’s not their home or job.
4.Shuns Glory or Reward
This means they do because it’s the right thing, not because they want a backpat or someone is looking. The humble brag isn’t part of their reality and when they say “don’t mention it”, they really mean it.
5.Open Doors and Offers Seat
Opening and holding the door for women, babies, disabled individuals, and the elderly isn’t dead, it’s just common courtesy. You don’t have to be a man to do it either! I’ve seen 10-year-olds open doors for people on crutches or with canes. It’s not hard.
These are the folks who also find it easy to give up a seat on a bus, train, or other crowded setting where it’s standing room only.
You’re really comfortable addressing your elders as “Ma’am” or “Sir”, or offering to help them with something in the store or at their house. You open doors, watch your language, and chit-chat with your elders with kindness.
7.Accepts Responsibility and Says Sorry
Everyone has shortcomings and makes mistakes, and it takes a mature person to own up to when they’re wrong. Apologizing for those actions without blaming, getting defensive, or inserting a “but” shows you’ve been raised well.
It may seem small, but making sure no one feels left out is a kindness that goes a long way. These people engage and interact with others, especially in a group setting, leaving no one awkwardly out of a conversation or event.
9.Waits Their Turn
The thought of cutting the line or huffing and puffing because something is “taking too long” doesn’t cross their minds. A person with patience and consideration has no problem waiting until it’s their turn.
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